HOW TO BE HAPPY: People you need to eliminate in your life!

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Most of the time we feel like we owe so many people a lot of things and we tend to stick to them even though it costs us our feelings; I’m here to tell you to stop!

If anyone by all means trys to bash/ put you down then you don’t need that person in your life! Learn to surround your self with people that uplift and make you feel better about yourself. Sometimes we stick to people because they’ve “once” done something for us yet if we calculate most of the time they are knocking us to ground, those people are not needed, eliminate them!

Only calls when they need you
Other people think it’s okay to call or text when an emergency suddenly arises; why are you even talking to them? It’s not okay. Stop being a shoulder to cry on or bending in all directions for people that don’t actually care about you. Eliminate those people and make friends or contact with people that always have your back.

Never listens to you.
Any friendship or relationship that will ever work is of people that give each other chances to speak and hear what the other is saying. If you are currently in a relation whereby the other person always feels that they should have the last say then you might need to end it! It will never work if you constantly feel like you’re at the bottom of the chain.

Empathy and compassion
Don’t stay in any relation that you ever feel emotionally, mentally or even physically hurt. Be in a relation where both can understand each other’s feelings and be able to feel for each other and help wherever possible. Eliminate the people that are inconsiderate, rude and don’t take your situations seriously!

People who don’t see the good
Other people will seriously drain you and pull you down with them; eliminate them! If a person never sees anything good about what you do or whatever you feel good about then you might just need to cut it! You don’t need people criticising the person that you are or making you feel bad about the things that mean something to you. You could be on to something but that person could bring you down that whatever you had ends up becoming nothing.

Be open to constructive criticism and have an ear for the people that will build you however try by all means to cut off the people that make you see yourself as nothing. I’m not saying be sensitive to all the comments that people throw your way because people will always have something to say but I’m saying if you have any active friendship or relationship with people like the above then you will have to either talk to them or eliminate them completely. Because you don’t want to live a life that is clouded with so much negativity and that is always pulling you down.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope that this post has helped you in someway and that you’re on a Journey to becoming better.



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Hey guys what’s good?!?! For today’s post I’ll be showing you a look I recently wore and giving you all the details about the outfit and where I got everything.

This is a denim on denim look and was pretty much inspired by casual street. I was very skeptical about wearing the skirt because it is short and living in place that is always full of different people with good and bad intentions I felt very uncomfortable that coming back I had to wear a jacket over.

Denim Jacket

This Jacket is a recent purchase. I bought it from Mr Price for R250.00 and to be real I’m in love! I’ve always wanted a good denim Jacket that fit me really well and this Jacket is doing the most so you best believe I will be on the lookout at Mr Price to get some more.


I’ve had this skirt for a long time now and if I’m not lying I got it on a sale rack for R50.00 at Mr Price. I remember not believing the price and actually being in awe because I actually couldn’t believe it! Love the skirt, besides the fact that it’s short and I always feel uncomfortable with the eyes I get when I’m wearing it.


I promise this post is not sponsored by Mr Price! This is also a recent purchase from Mr Price and I got it for R70.00. This is a nice simple, turquoise (if im not lying) bodysuit that can go with all outfits and can be used a staple.

These shinny little things are from Rage and if I’m honest I think I bought them for about R220.00 I was a little bit skeptical at first about the shiny color since I always like to keep it simple but trust me they work!They add sauce to any outfit and because of the deep bronze colour they go with all colours very well.

Bag : Legit

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Hey guys what is good?! If you know and follow me then you know that I haven’t been one for face care and buying all sorts of different products for the face but I recently wanted to jump on the train and see what more I could get from my skin. Today I will be reviewing the Johnson even complexion face care set.

I bought the whole set which consists of the face gel, the bar of soap as well as the moisturizer and I tried it for about a month and a half so I think it is safe to say that I’ve used enough of the product to be able to say something. I must say that I was kind of surprised about the price range because I was expecting face care as a whole to be expensive but I guess I did go for a drugstore range.

The first thing that I noticed upon using the set for the first time is that it did burn and I was kind of worried because I didn’t understand what was going on and if it would cause a bad reaction. I did build up a bit of a rash in the first few days that I did use the products but because my name is Journey I still carried on using the products. However the rash didn’t carry on for a long time, infact I think in about 2-3 days my skin was looking fresh and clear again.

The face cream does have an SPF of 15 which is quite good because it means that your skin will be protected from the sun and if you know Johannesburg then you know that it is forever heated these days,- so I needed that.

What I loved about the set is that my skin had that blur that I think everyone looks for when buying these products, giving you that natural glow. My skin felt and looked glowy which for me was a bonus because that meant that I had less problems when going out in public with my natural skin.

I would say that the gel and the moisturizer are my favorite from the set because I really didn’t see the need for the bar of soap, it didn’t feel like it was doing anything and I still felt the same afterwards. So if I did buy the set again I would skip the bar of soap.

The reason I actually chose this particular set was because my skin does have two colours so I was hoping that the products would change that and give me one natural colour but unfortunately it didn’t but instead made my skin glow in both colours.

I really don’t have much to say about the products because like I said I don’t really have problematic skin so for me it was kind of like a waste but I did want to give you guys a bit of a review and my journey using the product.

Overall I give the product a 9/10 and not a full 10 only because of the tingly burning feeling you first experience and the little rash that came about for the few days. However I give the set a huge thumbs up for not ruining my skin and causing unnecessary problems.

Thank you so much for reading and I hope you enjoy the little review. I’d really like to know if any of you have ever used this set and I’m very curious if it did hep your skin or just ruined it. Please leave me your comments telling me all about your experience.

Common black girl tag 2018

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Hey guys what’s popping!! Welcome right back to the blog. For today’s blog post I’ll be doing the common black girl tag which I think is going to be really interesting and relatable because from reading some of the questions I noticed these are the type of questions we normally ask each other. I hope you enjoy the tag and hopefully learn something new about me!

Quick background: I am originally born in South Africa witbank. I lived there for a couple of years until I needed to start preschool, from there I moved to Nelspruit Bushbuckridge where I also lived for a few years and the left for Johannesburg which is where I am currently staying. Ethnicity wise I am a Pedi/Swati/Tsonga from South Africa but generally only speak Sepedi fully. Otherwise let’s get on with the tag!

1. have you ever been told you sound like a white girl?

All the time!! And a lot of times it’s from other black people, and I’m like “how does a white person even sound?!?”

2. do you drink starbucks?

Yes I do, however it’s not an everyday drink. I think the last time I drank Star bucks was about a year ago.

3. do people ever say you act “ghetto?”

Nah. Not really. I’m more of a quiet person in public.

4. can you dance?

Yeah when I’m home alone and I’m feeling really hyped.

5. do you eat ‘soulfood’ or do you know what it is?

Yeah I eat soul food however I feel like people always have different sorts of ideas when it comes to soul food depending on where they come from. so I’m not sure we are on the same page.

6. do you go to private, private, or charter school?

I went to a public school.

7. how long does it take you to get ready in the morning?

Approximately about an hour and 15 minutes but that’s only because I’m forced to. Otherwise I would probably take 3 hours

8. how many selfies do you take daily?

I take a bunch! I take about 20 a day however it depends on the day and how I’m feeling because sometimes I even go for days without taking pictures.

9. do you always try to look presentable?

Yup by all means however it doesn’t always work out.

10. what are your averages grades in school?

About a 75

11. do you have a lot of friends?

I’ve got a lot of people I talk to, however only a few friends.

12. how many followers do you have on instagram?

1288, sad I know.

You can add me #wink LINK

13. does your name have “isha, ja, or nique” in it?

Lol haha no hey instead it’s a weird name used in our everyday lives.

14. do you roll your neck or eyes, commonly?

A sufficient amount a day.

15. how often do you get an attitude?

All the time! However I’m not the one to start unnecessary fights or arguments so I usually just talk a lot in my head and create dialogs of what I should have done

16. do you like taylor swift?

I’ve got nothing against her but I mean she’s not my favourite. I’ve jammed to a few songs of hers.

17. have you ever had to deal with racism?

Yes but in most cases people try to hide behind “I’m not being racist but….” Which is sick because people expect you to smile and carry on as if what they’ve said is not offensive.

18. would you date a white boy or any other ethnicity outside of your race?

Yes, if I was interested in them of course.

19. do you wear weave, if so, how often?

No but I’d like to try.

20. are you lightskin, brownskin, or darkskin?

I’d say brownskin. My skin has changed drastically from a dark skin to a brown skin.

21. are you described as loud or quiet?

Loud as heck!

22. whats the most annoying question you get asked?

”Is that your real hair?” [Rolls eyes]

23. have you ever been called “ratchet?”


24. do you pat your head or do you do the assisted scratch?

Girl I do both lol!! When a scratch needs the scratch then you gotta scratch. It don’t matter how.

25. who is your favorite african american couple?

It used be Will and Jada Smith but I think they are separated or something :/ I don’t really follow couples

26. what african american women do you look up to?

Can I say Rihanna? I love how she’s doing the things she loves and has established a way of making money through it. That for me is goals! There are a few other people like Zendaya and Keke Palmer

27. what is your favorite thing about being South African?

All the different cultures that make us one and how we can integrate different ways of doing things into one.

28. do you like fried chicken? do you like watermelon?

Yup I love both. I don’t think there’s anyone who doesn’t like fried chicken made by their momma

29. is your natural hair long?

Looking at the South African population and the length of hair they have I’d say my hair is pretty long.

30. do you commonly talk with your hands?

Is there any other way of sending through a message without using your hands?

32. have you ever been in a physical fight?

Yeah unfortunately. Lol I’m not discussing anything further!!

33. do you know how to twerk?


34. do you have any white friends?

Yeah about a few though.

35. did you enjoy this tag

I did! It honestly gave me a sense of culture and made me laugh at how familiar these questions are or how other people have asked me these questions already.

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Hey lovie what’s popping, welcome right back to the blog! I know everyone is currently talking about the month of love and date night ideas but I’d really like to talk about something that I feel is a huge factor amongst us as well as something that touches ones heart at a point in time. Today I want us to talk about getting what you want.

I know most of us have big plans as to the things we want to achieve in life as well as who we want to be in life but we lack the action to get what we want or even the planning to what we want and today I’d like to help myself as well as you get around to making things happen, that’s why I’ve created these 3 steps and guidelines to making it happen!

These are some of the steps and guidelines to help you and me get what we want!

Define what you want.
Everyone has a certain thing or goal they would like to achieve. What you need to do is sit down and ask yourself what it is that you want and how far you’re willing to go to actually achieve that particular thing. You need to be in understanding as to the thing that you want and be at a point where you can see it going.

Is it realistic?
I’m not trying to say things are impossible but you need to look at the state that you are in at the moment and measure the possibility of that thing happening in the near future. I mean you can’t be planning on buying a plane when you know you can’t fly one unless you have means in place to learn how to fly one. So think carefully about your goal and have means to get it happening. Let them be goals that you know you are capable of doing otherwise get yourself capable.

How far are you willing to go to get what you want?
Sometimes we tell ourselves that we really want something but when we actually calculate and measure it out we find out that we don’t really want this thing or that we want something else. The best thing to do is to ask yourself how far you’re willing to go to achieve your goal and if it’s not that far then maybe you need to ask yourself again what it is you really want.

Start now!
I think the worst illness we all have is procrastination and we need to help ourselves deal with it. If we can all start now with all the plans and ideas we have in our heads then we would all become something relevant in life. My advice to you is to actually start now no matter the situation, what you have and who you are. Start now! Don’t let anything stop you and stop putting your goals for another day.

Yuup guys so those are my 3 easy steps into getting what you want and I really hope that this post will help some of us and that in the next future we can all say we did it. If you did like this post then give it a thumbs up and don’t forget to share!

Question of the day: what do you do to make sure you make it happen?



Hey family what’s popping. Happy Sunday!! Today I’m going to be sharing with you my lit playlist and what I’ve been jamming to recently. I’m always changing around my playlist and the artists I’ve been listening to but this is what I have been rocking for the moment.

1. Quality Control, Quavo, Nicki minaj  – Is she for keeps.
2. Pia Mia – Day dreaming
3. French Montana – Unforgettable
4. Mzokoloko ft Mamillion Ngena Enganeni
5. Young thug – Relationship
6. Mobi Dixon – Buthiza ft Nichume
7. Tove Styrke – liability
8. Lil Uzi Vert – The way life goes ft  Nicki minaj
9. Naakmusiq – Mamelani
10. Eric Belinger – Goat 2.0  ft Wale
11. Dr Malinga ft Josta – Angilalanga izolo
12. Calum Scott – You are the reason
13. King Monada – Zwea baba
14. Niniola – Maradona
15. Big Sean – Pull up and wreck ft 21 savage
16. Bryson tiller – Run me dry
17. Pia Mia – Ocean Drive
18. Sho Madjozi & PS DJZ  – Dumi hi phone
19. Pia Mia – One song away

Yuup family so that is my January playlist! I know the genres are all mixed up and different but those are all the songs I’ve been jamming too, in no particular order. Let me know in the comments section what your thoughts are and what your current favourites are.



Hey gorgeous how are you doing?! Before anything else I would love to wish you a happy new year and wish you all the best in everything you do. 2017 like any other year had its up and downs but for me 2017 had more downs than there was ups that I feel like I’m happy to be in 2018! Today I would like us to talk about new year resolutions and what we are going to achieve in the new year.

Self love 
I preach so much about self love and self appreciation but I still think it’s not enough. I need to be in a year where I can literally do anything with my body  and not be judged for it and without me thinking twice about my decision. I need to be at a point where I can love myself unconditionally and be content with the person that I am.

People are sleeping on your girl too much and it’s time we woke up! This year I would love to do more collaborations with different creative people, make new friendships as well as get more recognition from companies so that I can start pushing a word. This 2018 I would like to enter into a new chapter in terms of my influence and broaden my voice.

Experience things.
I’m mostly known for shying away from doing things because I’m always pulling out and feeling scared but this year I really wanna push my limits and try out new things. I would like to go to different places, try different types of food and make memories.

Make relationships. 
Now if you know me I hardly ever entertain any sort of relationship whatsoever ending in me being all alone and not doing anything. Which there’s nothing wrong with but for 2018 I’d really love to meet new people and create all sorts of different bonds and just be a free person. I know people like taking advantage and that I’m not going to always make the right bond but this year I’m really just going to let God protect me in all the things that I do.


I used to be a workout junkie and would never go through a week without excising more than 4 times a week but that sort of fell out last year when I was working in retail and didn’t have enough time so this year I would really love to get back into routine and start excising again.

Do significant things
Last but not least for 2018 I wanna do things that have significance. What I mean is I wanna do significant things that I can see and that make a difference in y life. I wanna start helping out my family more and just enhancing our quality of life.

Yes guys so those are my goals for 2018 and hopefully by God’s grace I am going to achieve them. I am going to be working much harder this year and focusing on the things that mean the most to me like my creative life..What are your goals for 2018? Please leave them down in the comments section below and lets start up a conversation.



Hey guys what is popping! Welcome right back to the blog!! For today’s blog post I want us to talk about the things we should leave in 2017. 2017 has been a good year and one to remember but somethings just need to stay in 2017!! Here are some of the things we need to leave in 2017.

Thank you so much for watching, I hope you enjoyed this video.








If there is a colour for summer 2017 then the colour has to be yellow. Everyone has been wearing the colour in so many different shades that not only have I been jealous but I had to write a post about it. Generally, I’m not a huge fan of the colour but yellow radiates beautifully on all skin tones and is a MUST have. Here are different ways to style the colour.


Just because yellow is a bright, happy colour doesn’t mean it can’t walk into the office/formal place.Formal doesn’t have a specific colour so rock your formal outfits and make sure they are yellow. You can also spice things up by adding some cool accessories.




The easiest way to rock this colour will have to be the casual way. What I love about casual outfits is that they are relaxed and define you when you are chilled down. To rock the colour yellow casually you can basically put a shirt and some sweatpants on and you’re good to go. If you are feeling a little freaky you can even add some leggings!


The baddie way

No one Rocks it like a baddie! To style your yellow outfits the baddie way you can colour coordinate any yellow pieces together and add accessories here and there to give your outfit that glow.  The main ingredient to a baddie outfit is the confidence,  so add some confidence to the mix and you’re good to go!


The elegant way

This way is more for if you’d like to be dressy and classy and is great if you are going out somewhere with some special people. Styling the colour yellow elegantly is also great because the colour will enhance your skin tone and will also give you that summer glow. Elegant pieces you can use are dresses and skirts!


Accessorize with the colour yellow.

If you don’t want to go all in with the mix matching and wearing a lot of yellow then you can wear the colour by using a touch of it in your accessories.  Here are a few examples.


That’s how easy it is to style the colour yellow.! I hope that these tips will help you rock the summer 2017 trend with the most stylish looks. Happy Styling!

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Summer has got to be the season for fashion.!! With beautiful skin tones and being able to show off some skin, what is there not to love?! Today I will be sharing with you 4 trends to make sure you slay this summer.

1. Culottes 

Culottes have been my favourite type of pants since over-sized denim jeans were the ish. However, I did not like how oversized denim jeans looked on me so I chose the next best thing.  I feel like culottes can turn an outfit from a basic to an A without even trying! The more reason I like them is that they look good on every body type and they can be dressed up or down depending on what you pair them up with.



2. Over the shoulder dresses and shirts.

What is summer without skirts and dresses?  For this summer showing off your shoulders is the in thing! What I love about over the shoulder dresses and shirts is that they are very cool pieces to wear as they bring in some fresh air. An add-on to them being great is that you can move these pieces from a summery casual outfit to a formal evening outfit with just what you wear the pieces with.


3. Skaters

Skaters have been the in thing since I can remember and for them to be coming back is doing some of us a favour.  If you are in a workspace or you’d love to look put together then I do recommend skaters because they look amazing! You can pair them up with some cool jackets. bodysuits or even off the shoulder shirts.


4. Block heel sandals

Now, who doesn’t love to look sexy but at the same time comfortable?!  Block heels are the in thing at the moment as they make sure you look good but at the same time, your feet aren’t paining. You can get these literally anywhere in all colours and styles so get yourself a pair. What I love about block heel sandals is that you can pair them up with any outfit from casual to formal and you would still look great.

Those are the 4 trendy pieces you should rock this summer. If you do like this post please give it a like and don’t forget to follow if this is your first time visiting. Mwah xo